the point is, yes, THIS IS RAPE CULTURE. the amount of time and effort required to involuntarily ponder all of those questions about intentions (and more) during/after each interaction with an untrusted “nice” man has a cognitive load. it, along with all the other patriarchal-garbage-stations our brains get tuned to, impacts self-conception. it creates cognitive dissonance and physical discomfort. this is the stuff of a systemically sexist culture.